a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support…

- Carolyn Heilbrun

Only a marriage with partners strong enough to risk divorce is strong enough to avoid it.

- Carolyn Heilbrun

. . . a relationship has a momentum, it must change and develop, and will tend to move toward the point of greatest commitment.

- Carolyn Heilbrun

Once you are thought selfish, not only are you forgiven a life designed mainly to suit yourself, which in anyone else would appear monstrous, but if …

- Carolyn Heilbrun

It's hard to be happy, and safe, and applauded in a miserable world.

- Carolyn Heilbrun

A literary academic can no more pass a bookstore than an alcoholic can pass a bar.

- Carolyn Heilbrun

To recommend that women become identical to men, would be simple reversal, and would defeat the whole point of androgyny, and for that matter, femini…

- Carolyn Heilbrun

Androgyny suggests a spirit of reconciliation between the sexes; it suggests, further, a full range of experience…it suggests a spectrum upon which h…

- Carolyn Heilbrun

Quoting, like smoking, ... is a dirty habit to which I am devoted. But then ... I am a professor of English literature; it is an occupational hazard.

- Carolyn Heilbrun