St. Paul introduced an entirely novel view of marriage, that it existed primarily to prevent the sin of fornication. It is just as if one were to maintain that the sole reason for baking bread is to prevent people from stealing cake.
Marriage is for women the commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution.
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What this quote means
The quote suggests that marriage can often be a socio-economic necessity for women, and they may experience unwanted sexual encounters within it more frequently than in prostitution.
In this quote, Bertrand Russell critiques the institution of marriage by pointing out its role as a means of survival for women, often leading to situations where they endure sex they do not desire. He controversially compares this experience to that of women in prostitution, thereby highlighting issues of consent and societal expectations surrounding women's roles in relationships.
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In a discussion about modern relationships, this quote can be used to challenge traditional views on marriage.
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