Most marriages don't add two people together. They subtract one from the other.
Interpretation
This quote suggests that many marriages can lead to the loss of individuality rather than a harmonious union.
Ian Fleming's quote reflects on the nature of many marriages, implying that instead of two individuals enhancing each other's lives, one may end up compromising or diminishing their own identity for the sake of the relationship. It encapsulates a critical perspective on how some couples may lose themselves in the dynamics of marital life, highlighting the importance of maintaining individuality while working together as partners.
In practice
In a discussion about the challenges of marriage during a wedding speech.
Above all, he liked it that everything was one's own fault. There was only oneself to praise or blame. Luck was a servant and not a master. Luck had to be accepted with a shrug or taken advantage of up to the hilt. But it had to be understood and recognized for what it was and not confused with a faulty appreciation of the odds, for, at gambling, the deadly sin is to mistake bad play for bad luck. And luck in all its moods had to be loved and not feared
Worry is a dividend paid to disaster before it is due
And don't get hurt,' [Dexter] added. 'There's no one to help you up there. And don't go stirring up a lot of trouble for us. This case isn't ripe yet. Until it is, our policy with Mr Big is 'live and let live'.' Bond looked quizzically at Captain Dexter In my job,' he said, 'when I come up against a man like this one, I have another motto. It's 'live and let die'.
You only live twice. Once when you are born and once when you look death in the face.
If you interrupt the writing of fast narrative with too much introspection and self-criticism, you will be lucky if you write 500 words a day and you will be disgusted with them into the bargain. By following my formula, you write 2,000 words a day and you arenβt disgusted with them until the book is finished, which will be in about six weeks.
I take people very seriously. People are all I take seriously, in fact. Therefore, I have nothing but sympathy for how people behave - and nothing but laughter to console them with.
It's always been a great survival value for people to believe they belong to a superior tribe. That's just in human relationships.
We don't do enough to help older people recognize how much they matter.
Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.
Be polite to all, but intimate with few.
Eroticism thrives in the space between the self and the other.
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