You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.
David Foster WallaceRead
This is not a matter of virtue-it's a matter of my choosing to do the work of somehow altering or getting free of my natural, hard-wired default-setting, which is to be deeply and literally self-centered, and to see and interpret everything through this lens of self.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of consciously choosing to overcome innate self-centeredness.
David Foster Wallace reflects on the innate tendency of humans to be self-centered and suggests that personal growth requires active effort to alter this default setting. He highlights that virtue is not simply about moral goodness but involves the conscious choice to engage in the arduous work of becoming more aware of and free from our self-absorbed tendencies.
Themes
Self-CenteredDefault-SettingChoiceGrowthAwareness
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a motivational speech to encourage people to reflect on their awareness of self.
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