It is only in your mind that you have to excel, at anything or everything. Of course, it would be very nice to excel at most things. Indeed, we recommend that you try and do your best. But realistically, you are entitled to do the bare minimum to get by. All your accomplishments are just a bonus, something to enjoy, not requirements. You don't have to do anything to prove that you are worthy of existing.
Stop shoulding on yourself - Albert Ellis
Stop shoulding on yourself
- Albert Ellis
If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally - … - Albert Ellis
If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally - …
Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up. - Albert Ellis
Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up.
You mainly feel the way you think. - Albert Ellis
You mainly feel the way you think.
Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them. - Albert Ellis
Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy. - Albert Ellis
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us. - Albert Ellis
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the pr… - Albert Ellis
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the pr…
The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action. - Albert Ellis
The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.
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