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The moment love becomes a relationship, it becomes a bondage, because there are expectations and there are demands and there are frustrations, and an effort from both sides to dominate. It becomes a struggle for power.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Love can transform into a complicated relationship filled with expectations, struggles, and power dynamics.
In this quote, Rajneesh emphasizes how love, when turned into a formal relationship, introduces complexity and challenges. The innocent, free-flowing nature of love can become tainted by expectations and demands that individuals place upon each other, leading to frustrations and a battle for control rather than a harmonious connection.
Themes
LoveRelationshipBondageExpectationsStrugglesPower
In practice
Example use cases
During a relationship counseling session, one might use this quote to illustrate the challenges love can face.
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