The moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken. More: You have ceded them power.
Interpretation
When people think they can predict your behavior, they gain control over you.
This quote highlights the importance of maintaining an element of surprise in our interactions with others. When individuals believe they can easily anticipate how we will respond or behave, they effectively gain a degree of power over us, diminishing our influence and the impact we have on them. To keep our 'spell' or allure intact, we must avoid becoming overly predictable.
In practice
In a leadership seminar discussing strategies for influence.
In a society where the roles everyone plays are obvious, the refusal to conform to any standard will excite interest. Be both masculine and feminine, impudent and charming, subtle and outrageous. Let other people worry about being socially acceptable; those types are a dime a dozen, and you are after a power greater than they can imagine.
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike.
The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.
The Nihilistic Troll might pretend to be acting in the service of some cause or leader, but don't be fooled. The cause and their supposedly strong convictions are simply a way to justify and provide cover for their abusive behavior.
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Remember that the essence of authority is that people willingly follow your lead.
It's not worth doing something unless you were doing something that someone, somewere, would much rather you weren't doing.
Most writers tend to get worse rather than better. I'm determined to be one that gets better.
People don't realize what they had till it's gone. Like President Kennedy, there was no one like him, the Beatles, and my man Elvis Presley. I was the Elvis of boxing.
Effective people stay out of Quadrants III and IV because, urgent or not, they aren't important. They also shrink Quadrant I down to size by spending more time in Quadrant II...Quadrant II is the heart of effective personal management.
No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for 'we' are the only thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.
Be honest about what you see, get out of the way and let the story reveal itself
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