Neither loss of father, nor loss of mother, dear as she was to Mr Thornton, could have poisoned the remembrance of the weeks, the days, the hours, when a walk of two miles, every step of which was pleasant, as it brought him nearer and nearer to her, took him to her sweet presence - every step of which was rich, as each recurring moment that bore him away from her made him recal some fresh grace in her demeanour, or pleasant pungency in her character.
Mr. Thornton felt that in this influx no one was speaking to Margaret, and was restless under this apparent neglect. But he never went near her himself; he did not look at her. Only, he knew what she was doing — or not doing — better than anyone else in the room. Margaret was so unconscious of herself, and so much amused by watching other people, that she never thought whether she was left unnoticed or not.
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What this quote means
The quote highlights the complexity of unspoken feelings and awareness in social situations.
In this excerpt from Elizabeth Gaskell, Mr. Thornton observes Margaret with a sense of affection and concern, noting how she is oblivious to the attention she is not receiving from him and others. His restlessness stems from a mix of admiration for her carefree nature and frustration over his own hesitance to engage with her directly. This passage illustrates the intricate dynamics of unexpressed feelings, social awareness, and the disconnect between personal emotions and outward actions.
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This quote can be used in a discussion about the nature of love and unexpressed sentiments in relationships.
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