Woke up this morning with a terrific urge to lie in bed all day and read. Fought against it for a minute. Then looked out the window at the rain. And gave over. Put myself entirely in the keep of this rainy morning. Would I live my life over again? Make the same unforgivable mistakes? Yes, given half a chance. Yes.
I loved you so much once. I did. More than anything in the whole wide world. Imagine that. What a laugh that is now. Can you believe it? We were so intimate once upon a time I can't believe it now. The memory of being that intimate with somebody. We were so intimate I could puke. I can't imagine ever being that intimate with somebody else. I haven't been.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects on a once-deep romantic intimacy that has faded, invoking both nostalgia and disbelief.
In this poignant quote, Raymond Carver expresses a profound sense of loss and disbelief regarding a past intimate relationship. The speaker acknowledges having loved deeply and shared a significant bond, contrasting it with the current state of disconnection and the inability to replicate such intimacy with anyone else. Through a mix of affection and humor, the quote captures the complexities of love, memory, and the painful realization of how relationships can change over time.
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Example use cases
This quote is perfect for a reflective moment at a wedding, highlighting the evolution of love.
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