Relapse is very dangerous. However, relapse can be a symptom of the disease. Sometimes there are multiple relapses before you get sober and stay sober.
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Through Nic's drug addiction, I have learned that parents can bear almost anything....I shock myself with my ability to rationalize and tolerate things once unthinkable. The rationalizations escalate....It's only marijuana. He gets high only on weekends. At least he's not using hard drugs.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The challenges of a child's addiction reveal a parent's capacity for tolerance and rationalization.
This quote highlights the profound emotional journey of a parent dealing with a child's substance abuse. It underscores how love and concern can lead to diminishing standards and the self-deception that occurs as parents attempt to cope with the pain of their child's addiction. The parent's rationalizations, such as downplaying the severity of the issue by comparing it to other forms of substance use, illustrate a desperate attempt to maintain hope while facing a heartbreaking reality.
Themes
AddictionParentingToleranceRationalizationFamily
In practice
Example use cases
In a support group for parents dealing with addiction, you might share this quote to express the challenges of coping.
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