Pride is founded not on the sense of happiness, but on the sense of power.
William HazlittRead
We often choose a friend as we do a mistress - for no particular excellence in themselves, but merely from some circumstance that flatters our self-love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Friendship is often influenced by our need for validation rather than the true qualities of the person.
In this quote, Hazlitt suggests that our choices in friendships often arise from shallow reasons that boost our self-esteem, rather than from a genuine appreciation of the other person's inherent qualities. It highlights the idea that friendships can sometimes be superficial, based more on circumstances and personal gratification than on the true excellence of character. This reflection urges us to consider the true basis of our relationships and whether they are founded in authentic connection or mere self-interest.
Themes
FriendshipSelf-LoveRelationshipsSuperficialValidation
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about the nature of friendships at a sociological seminar.
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