You solve it as you get older, when you reach the point where you've tasted so much that you can somehow sacrifice certain things more easily, and you have a more tolerant view of things like possessiveness (your own) and a broader acceptance of the pains and the losses.
Interpretation
Aging brings a greater understanding of life, allowing for acceptance of loss and a decrease in possessiveness.
In this quote, Ted Hughes suggests that with age and experience, individuals gain a deeper understanding of life's complexities. As we encounter various experiences, we learn to let go of certain attachments and understand the inevitability of loss. This broader perspective fosters tolerance and acceptance of life's challenges, including our own imperfections and desires.
In practice
This quote could be used in a speech about the value of life experiences and learning from them.
...imagine what you are writing about. See it and live it. Do not think it up laboriously, as if you were working out mental arithmetic. Just look at it, touch it, smell it, listen to it, turn yourself into it. When you do this, the words look after themselves, like magic.
The inmost spirit of poetry, in other words, is at bottom, in every recorded case, the voice of pain – and the physical body, so to speak, of poetry, is the treatment by which the poet tries to reconcile that pain with the world.
Nobody wanted your dance, Nobody wanted your strange glitter, your floundering Drowning life and your effort to save yourself, Treading water, dancing the dark turmoil, Looking for something to give.
Haven’t you heard of the music of the spheres?” asked the dragon. “It’s the music that space makes to itself. All the spirits inside all the stars are singing. I’m a star spirit. I sing too. The music of the spheres is what makes space so peaceful.
And the elephant sings deep in the forest-maze_x000D_ _x000D_ About a star of deathless and painless peace_x000D_ _x000D_ But no astronomer can find where it is.
The real mystery is this strange need. Why can't we just hide it and shut up? Why do we have to blab? Why do human beings need to confess?
Man always travels along precipices... His truest obligation is to keep his balance.
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
Don’t romanticise your ‘vocation’. You can either write good sentences or you can’t. There is no ‘writer’s lifestyle’. All that matters is what you leave on the page.
It took me quite a long time to develop a voice, and now that I have it, I am not going to be silent.
I think it's very important that you make your own decision about what you are. Therefore you're responsible for your actions, so you don't blame other people.
Any fool may write a most valuable book by chance, if he will only tell us what he heard and saw with veracity.
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