While complying can be an effective strategy for physical survival, it's a lousy one for personal fulfillment. Living a satisfying life requires more than simply meeting the demands of those in control. Yet in our offices and our classrooms we have way too much compliance and way too little engagement. The former might get you through the day, but only the latter will get you through the night.
In order to raise money from somebody, you have to understand who is this person, not to deceive them but to understand them. What would be their motives for contributing money? Why do these people contribute money to some places, but not to others? That's attunement - treating everybody well, but not treating everybody the same.
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What this quote means
Understanding others' motives can help in building strong relationships and successful fundraising.
This quote emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding in the context of fundraising. Daniel H. Pink suggests that to effectively raise money, one must not only comprehend the individual motivations of potential donors but also recognize that different people require different approaches. The concept of 'attunement' reflects the need for sensitivity toward others' perspectives, suggesting that treating everyone with respect does not mean treating everyone identically.
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This quote can be used in a fundraising seminar to highlight the importance of donor relations.
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