The past feels distant, even when it's near. The future feels assured, even when it isn't.
Interpretation
The quote highlights how our perception of time can be skewed, making the past seem far away and the future seem certain.
In this quote, John Green reflects on the subjective nature of time, suggesting that our emotions and thoughts can alter our perception. The past may seem like a distant memory, even if it occurred recently, while the future can evoke a sense of certainty despite its inherent unpredictability. This introspective view encourages us to consider how we interpret our experiences and expectations.
In practice
A speaker might use this quote when discussing how memories shape our identity in a personal development workshop.
Always' was a promise! How can you just break the promise?" "Sometimes people don't always understand the promises they're making when they make them," I said. Isaac shot me a look. "Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That's what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway. Don't you believe in true love?" I didn't answer. I didn't have an answer. But I thought that if true love did exist, that was a pretty good definition of it.
Augustus Waters was the great star-crossed love of my life. Ours was an epic love story, and I won’t be able to get more than a sentence into it without disappearing into a puddle of tears. Gus knew. Gus knows. I will not tell you our love story, because—like all real love stories—it will die with us, as it should.
I find it really offensive when people say that the emotional experiences of teenagers are less real or less important than those of adults. I am an adult, and I used to be a teenager, and so I can tell you with some authority that my feelings then were as real as my feelings are now.
I don't think pandemics make us afraid of death, I think they make us afraid of oblivion. They force us to grapple with the futility of effort. Also they make us barf which isn't fun either... Wash your hands, cover your coughs, and find a way to hold in balance the futility of effort with the necessity to struggle.
So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that's not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren't constantly berating yourself for being sad.
We kiss. Her hands are freezing on my face, and she tastes like coffee and the smell of the onion is still stuck in my nose, and my lips are all dry from the endless winter. And it's awesome.
Favor and disgrace are like fear. Favor is in a higher place, and disgrace in a lower place. When you win them you are like being in fear, and when you lose them you are also like being in fear. So favor and disgrace are like fear.
History and memory share events; that is, they share time and space. Every moment is two moments.
If you want to know everything about the market, go to the beach. Push and pull your hands with the waves. Some are bigger waves, some are smaller. But if you try to push the wave out when it's coming in, it'll never happen. The market is always right.
It is clear that there is some difference between ends: some ends are energeia [energy], while others are products which are additional to the energeia.
Emotional life is - alongside work - one of the great challenges of existence and is a theme that I keep returning to.
There are very few monsters who warrant the fear we have of them.
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