Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.
Interpretation
Traumatized individuals struggle with a sense of safety and often disconnect from their own feelings and bodies.
This quote by Bessel Van Der Kolk highlights the profound impact of trauma on individuals. It explains how trauma can lead to a persistent feeling of unsafety within one's own body, which manifests as discomfort and anxiety. The past traumas continue to influence their present experiences through these warning signals. As a coping mechanism, many people trained themselves to ignore these innate responses, leading to a disconnection from their true selves and feelings.
In practice
In a mental health seminar discussing the effects of trauma on individuals.
People have a range of capacities to deal with overwhelming experience. Some people, some kids particularly, are able to disappear into a fantasy world, to dissociate, to pretend like it isnt happening, and are able to go on with their lives. And sometimes it comes back to haunt them.
The parent-child connection is the most powerful mental health intervention known to mankind.
Self-pity, a dominant characteristic of sociopaths, is also the characteristic that differentiates heroic storytelling from psychological rumination. When you talk about your experiences to shed light, you may feel wrenching pain, grief, anger, or shame. Your audience may pity you, but not because you want them to.
The unconscious mind is decidedly simple, unaffected, straightforward and honest. It hasn't got all of this facade, this veneer of what we call adult culture. It's rather simple, rather childish It is direct and free.
One might compare the relation of the ego to the id with that between a rider and his horse. The horse provides the locomotor energy, and the rider has the prerogative of determining the goal and of guiding the movements of his powerful mount towards it. But all too often in the relations between the ego and the id we find a picture of the less ideal situation in which the rider is obliged to guide his horse in the direction in which it itself wants to go.
We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying.
Wherever an inferiority complex exists, there is a good reason for it.
There are absolutely ways to manipulate behavior, because our behavior is endlessly being manipulated by the world around us.
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