Why can't women get along? Because we're afraid. We're afraid to be vulnerable. We're afraid to be soft. We're afraid to be hurt. But most of all, we're afraid of our power. So we become controlling and aggressive and vicious.
Iyanla VanzantRead
I gave myself permission to feel and experience all of my emotions. In order to do that, I had to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, I taught myself to believe that no matter what I felt or what happened when I felt it, I would be okay.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Embracing and experiencing emotions is essential for personal well-being and growth.
This quote emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and accepting one's emotions without fear. Iyanla Vanzant suggests that by allowing ourselves to feel all emotions, we release the fear associated with them, leading to a sense of acceptance and reassurance that we will ultimately be okay, regardless of our emotional experiences.
Themes
EmotionsAcceptanceCourageExperiencingWell-Being
In practice
Example use cases
During a mental health workshop to encourage students to discuss their feelings.
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