But when from a long-distant past nothing subsists, after the people are dead, after the things are broken and scattered, taste and smell alone, more fragile but more enduring, more unsubstantial, more persistent, more faithful, remain poised a long time, like souls, remembering, waiting, hoping, amid the ruins of all the rest; and bear unflinchingly, in the tiny and almost impalpable drop of their essence, the vast structure of recollection.
A person does not...stand motionless and clear before our eyes with his merits, his defects, his plans, his intentions with regard to ourself exposed on his surface...but is a shadow which we can never succeed in penetrating...a shadow behind which we can alternately imagine, with equal justification, that there burns the flame of hatred and of love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Understanding others is complex and multifaceted, as their true feelings and intentions are often hidden beneath the surface.
In this quote, Marcel Proust emphasizes the difficulty of fully comprehending another person's character and emotional landscape. He suggests that individuals are like shadows, elusive and enigmatic, making it impossible to simply discern their feelings of love or hatred. This complexity in human relationships highlights the idea that people often harbor deeper emotions and intentions that are not immediately apparent, urging us to be more empathetic and aware of the intricacies of our interactions with others.
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Example use cases
In a discussion about love and misunderstandings, this quote can illustrate the complexity of human emotions.
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We do not succeed in changing things according to our desire, but gradually our desire changes. The situation that we hoped to change because it was intolerable becomes unimportant. We have not managed to surmount the obstacle, as we were absolutely determined to do, but life has taken us round it, led us past it, and then if we turn round to gaze at the remote past, we can barely catch sight of it, so imperceptible has it become.
We are all of us obliged, if we are to make reality endurable, to nurse a few little follies in ourselves.
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Every kiss provokes another. Oh, in those earliest days of love how naturally the kisses spring to life! So closely, in their profusion, do they crowd together that lovers would find it as hard to count the kisses exchanged in an hour as to count the flowers in a meadow in May.
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