Plenty of the women who were single in the nineteenth century wrote about their desire to evade marriage. Marriage was scary in a lot of ways. It often involved having a lot of kids, losing your autonomy, being in service to a husband and children who were often born at an unremitting pace without the benefit of modern medicine.
Interpretation
This quote reflects the fears and challenges women faced regarding marriage in the nineteenth century.
Rebecca Traister highlights the apprehensions many women experienced about marriage during the nineteenth century. She emphasizes how the institution was often associated with a loss of autonomy, overwhelming responsibilities of motherhood, and the health risks involved, especially in an era without modern medical advancements. This perspective sheds light on a significant aspect of women's history and the struggle for independence.
In practice
This quote can be used in a discussion about women's rights and historical perspectives on marriage.
There is a kind of woman who is economically powerful, professionally powerful, who threatens a white male grip on power that has a long historic precedent in the country. Independent women living outside of marriage threaten all kinds of things about the way power is supposed to work.
There are all kinds of ways in which women, together, change the world. And I don't mean that in a cheesy way. I'm not somebody who believes all women should support each other. I believe very strongly in women critiquing each other, just not critiquing each other more intensely because they're women.
Up until 1920, women couldn't vote. Until 1974, married women couldn't get their own credit cards or, in some cases, their own loans. Basically, the husband's professional, social, and economic identity covered the individual identity of the wife.
More women than ever are having babies at the peak of their careers. When will we stop punishing them for it?
Being able to control your reproduction is essential to women's ability to flourish in the United States.
If something is going on, I hear about it. I like to talk to people, I socialise. Television is a waste of time. Human contact is what matters.
In the confusion we stay with each other, happy to be together, speaking without uttering a single word.
Stories about mental aberration and oddity only make sense in context. Just how do people live with someone who is peculiar, gifted, strange or alien? It's odd because there's a little part of me that wants to write about exotic, strange bizarre subjects. Instead, I've rather reluctantly realised that what I write about is families.
I waited for my daughter, Billie, to come to me with her troubles - but I'm glad I didn't hold my breath.
Forgiveness is manifested mercy; it is live in action - not love based on a feeling, but love based on a decision, an intentional choice to obey God.
When people say 'marriage' to me... It's always a means to an end. Everyone's so in a rush to define the relationship.
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