It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.
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I'm also interested in the modern suggestion that you can have a combination of love and sex in a marriage - which no previous society has ever believed.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights a contemporary view on marriage that combines love and sexual intimacy, challenging historical norms.
Alain De Botton's quote reflects a progressive understanding of marriage in the modern world, where the integration of love and sex is seen as a desirable and achievable state within the institution of marriage. Historically, many societies have held different views regarding the roles of love and sexual relations, often separating them or placing higher value on one over the other. This suggests a shift in social dynamics and personal expectations in romantic relationships.
Themes
MarriageLoveSexRelationshipSociety
In practice
Example use cases
During a discussion on modern marriage dynamics.
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