The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.
... in practice the standard for what constitutes rape is set not at the level of women's experience of violation but just above the level of coercion acceptable to men.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights the societal standards of defining rape, which often prioritize male perspectives over women's experiences.
Judith Lewis Herman's quote critically examines how societal norms and legal definitions of rape are influenced by men's perspectives, often dismissing women's lived experiences of violation. It suggests that the threshold for what constitutes rape is skewed, as it focuses more on acceptable levels of coercion rather than recognizing the full extent of women's violations, thereby questioning the justice and moral implications of such standards.
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In practice
Example use cases
During a seminar on gender-based violence, this quote could be used to illustrate the flaws in current legal definitions of rape.
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