I'm a hard worker and love my work. I have felt pulled toward work. And it's a pull I have ferociously had to counter to make room for my family.
Arlie Russell HochschildRead
In response to our fast-food culture, a 'slow food' movement appeared. Out of hurried parenthood, a move toward slow parenting could be growing. With vital government supports for state-of-the-art public child care and paid parental leave, maybe we would be ready to try slow love and marriage.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote advocates for a more thoughtful and deliberate approach to parenting, love, and marriage.
Arlie Russell Hochschild highlights a cultural shift from the fast-paced, instant gratification mindset prevalent in modern society to a more intentional and nurturing approach in parenting and relationships. By introducing concepts like 'slow food', she suggests that similar movements could enhance our familial and romantic connections, emphasizing the need for government support in fostering these changes.
Themes
Slow ParentingRelationshipsLoveFamilyNurturing
In practice
Example use cases
In a conversation about improving family dynamics, one could quote this to highlight the need for slowing down.
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