Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.
When the sage points at the moon, all that the idiot sees is the finger.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the difference in perception between the wise and the foolish, suggesting that deeper insights are often overlooked by those who are unaware.
This quote by Anthony De Mello illustrates the limitations of perception and understanding. It points out that while a sage (a wise person) may guide others towards greater truths (symbolized by the moon), those who lack insight may only focus on the immediate, visible cue (the pointing finger). It encourages individuals to look beyond the surface and seek deeper meanings in life.
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Example use cases
In a philosophy class discussing the nature of wisdom and knowledge, this quote serves as a reminder to look deeper into lessons.
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All quotes →The master never seemed to have his fill of gazing at his firstborn child. "What do you want him to be when he grows up?" someone asked. "Outrageously happy," said the master.
The genius of a composer is found in the notes of his music; but analyzing the notes will not reveal his genius. The poet's greatness is contained in his words; yet the study of his words will not disclose his inspiration. God reveals himself in creation; but scrutinize creation as minutely as you wish, you will not find God, any more than you will find the soul through careful examination of your body.
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