We all live in suspense, from day to day, from hour to hour; in other words, we are the hero of our own story.
Mary MccarthyRead
You mustn't force sex to do the work of love or love to do the work of sex.
Interpretation
Sex and love serve different purposes and should not be confused or forced into the role of the other.
This quote emphasizes the importance of understanding the distinct roles that sex and love play in human relationships. By stating that one mustn't force sex to fulfill the emotional depth of love, nor expect love to fulfill the physical demands of sex, it advocates for clarity and authenticity in how individuals engage in both aspects of intimacy.
In practice
During a relationship workshop, I shared this quote to illustrate the differences between physical and emotional connections.
We all live in suspense, from day to day, from hour to hour; in other words, we are the hero of our own story.
The exile is a singular, whereas refugees tend to be thought of in the mass ... What is implied in these nuances of social standing is the respect we pay to choice. The exile appears to have made a decision, while the refugee is the very image of helplessness.
Every word she writes is a lie, including "and" and "the."
Anti-Semitism is a horrible disease from which nobody is immune, and it has a kind of evil fascination that makes an enlightened person draw near the source of infection, supposedly in a scientific spirit, but really to sniff the vapors and dally with the possibility.
If one means by style the voice, the irreducible and always recognizable and alive thing, then of course style is really everything.
To care for the quarrels of the past, to identify oneself passionately with a cause that became, politically speaking, a losing cause with the birth of the modern world, is to experience a kind of straining against reality, a rebellious nonconformity that, again, is rare in America, where children are instructed in the virtues of the system they live under, as though history had achieved a happy ending in American civics.
Psychology is as important as substance. If you treat people with respect, they will go out of their way to accommodate you. If you treat them in a patronizing way, they will go out of their way to make your life difficult.
Promising too much can be as cruel as caring too little.
In the contemporary world where things fall apart, and the centre cannot hold, you have to imagine a community where there is no centre. Hank, at the end of this year I started thinking that a lot of life is about doing things that donβt suck with people who donβt suck.
So the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. It is human connection.
Our world is increasingly interdependent, but I wonder if we truly understand that our interdependent human community has to be compassionate; compassionate in our choice of goals, compassionate in our means of cooperation and our pursuit of these goals.
My wife and I tried two or three times in the last 40 years to have breakfast together, but it was so disagreeable we had to stop.
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