In memoir, you have to be particularly careful not to alienate the reader by making the material seem too lived-in. It mustn't have too much of the smell of yourself, otherwise the reader will be unable to make it her own.
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Shame is something you'll find a lot of - particularly Catholic - girls feel about their bodies, about their sexuality, about their diet, about anything you like. Shame is the way you keep them down. That's the way to crush a girl.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Shame can be a powerful tool for oppression, particularly for women regarding their bodies and choices.
This quote by Rachel Cusk highlights the pervasive nature of shame, especially in the context of societal expectations placed on women, particularly within certain cultural or religious frameworks. It suggests that shame operates as a means of control, preventing individuals from embracing their own identities and experiences, ultimately stifling their potential and freedom.
Themes
ShameBodySexualityControlOppression
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared during a discussion on body positivity and the impact of societal pressures on women.
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All quotes →As writers go, I have a skin of average thickness. I am pleased by a good review, disappointed by a bad. None of it penetrates far enough to influence the thing I write next.
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There is always shame in the creation of an expressive work, whether it's a book or a clay pot. Every artist worries about how they will be seen by others through their work. When you create, you aspire to do justice to yourself, to remake yourself, and there is always the fear that you will expose the very thing that you hoped to transform.
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I have no sense of a model or predecessor when I write a memoir: For me, the form exists as a method of processing material that retains too many connections to life to be approached strictly and aesthetically. A memoir is a risk, a one-off, a bastard child.
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It seems to me that 'women's writing' by nature would not seek equivalence in the male world. It would be a writing that sought to express a distinction, not deny it.
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We who were born were not witnesses to our birth: like death, it is something we are forever after trying to catch sight of.
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