If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
Maya AngelouRead
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
Interpretation
Trust people's actions and words as true reflections of their character.
This quote emphasizes the importance of recognizing and accepting a person's true nature based on their actions and behaviors rather than hoping they will change. It suggests that when someone reveals their true self, it is wise to take them at face value, rather than dismissing or underestimating the significance of those revelations.
In practice
In a discussion about relationships, you can use this quote to remind friends to trust their partner's behavior.
If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
I find it interesting that the meanest life, the poorest existence, is attributed to God's will, but as human beings become more affluent, as their living standard and style begin to ascend the material scale, God descends the scale of responsibility at commensurate speed.
The white American man makes the white American woman maybe not superfluous but just a little kind of decoration. Not really important to turning around the wheels of the state. Well the black American woman has never been able to feel that way. No black American man at any time in our history in the United States has been able to feel that he didn't need that black woman right against him, shoulder to shoulder-in that cotton field, on the auction block, in the ghetto, wherever.
I dreamt we walked together along the shore. We made satisfying small talk and laughed. This morning I found sand in my shoe and a seashell in my pocket. Was I only dreaming?
I know that I'm not the easiest person to live with. The challenge I put on myself is so great that the person I live with feels himself challenged. I bring a lot to bear, and I don't know how not to.
I think Clinton, after getting into office and into Washington, was shocked at being bludgeoned. So he spent time trying to be all things to all people - one way guaranteed not to be successful or respected in a lion's den. You can't just play around with all those big cats - you've got to take somebody on.
He who pursues fame at the risk of losing his self is not a scholar.
Above all, do not lose your desire to walk. Everyday, I walk myself into a state of well-being & walk away from every illness. I have walked myself into my best thoughts, and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it. But by sitting still, & the more one sits still, the closer one comes to feeling ill. Thus if one just keeps on walking, everything will be all right.
Peaceful is the one who's not concerned with having more or less. Unbound by name and fame, he is free from sorrow from the world and mostly from himself.
If you find yourself in some difficulty, step aside, and allow Buddha to take your place. The Buddha is in you.
Challenging power structures from the inside, working the cracks within the system, however, requires learning to speak multiple languages of power convincingly.
Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habit.
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