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This is something I know: damaged women? We don't think we deserve kindness. IN fact, when kindness happens to us, we go a little berserk. It's threatening. Deeply. Because if I have to admit how profoundly I need kindness? I have to admit that I hid the me who deserves it down in a sadness well.
Lidia Yuknavitch
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Damaged women often struggle with accepting kindness due to feelings of unworthiness.

This quote highlights the inner turmoil that damaged individuals, particularly women, experience when faced with kindness. It points out that accepting kindness can feel threatening, as it forces one to confront their deep-seated feelings of unworthiness and sadness, which they may have suppressed.

Themes

KindnessSelf-WorthRelationshipsHealingSadness

In practice

Example use cases

In a support group talking about self-acceptance.

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