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I grew up as a step-kid, always a little outside, always trying hard to follow and fit in. But over time, I've come to feel that my tendency toward self-erasure is a deep and real part of me. I think I'd be this way no matter how I grew up.
Jennifer Egan
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What this quote means

This quote reflects on the complexities of identity and belonging, particularly for those who feel different or disconnected.

In this quote, Jennifer Egan discusses her experiences growing up as a stepchild and the feeling of being somewhat alienated and striving to fit in. She reveals a deeper insight that her inclination to diminish her own presence for the sake of others is not merely a consequence of her upbringing, but rather an intrinsic aspect of her identity that remains regardless of her circumstances.

Themes

IdentityBelongingSelf-ErasureAcceptancePersonal-Growth

In practice

Example use cases

This quote can be used in a therapy session to discuss identity issues.

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