A strong hatred is the best lamp to bear in our hands as we go over the dark places of life, cutting away the dead things men tell us to revere.
Rebecca WestRead
She did not suddenly start being disagreeable this afternoon, she was so good at it, she had evidently practised whatever are the scales and arpeggios of rudeness every day of her life.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that someone's disagreeable behavior is a result of long-term practice rather than a sudden change.
Rebecca West's quote highlights how certain negative behaviors, such as rudeness or disagreeableness, can become ingrained through consistent practice over time. It implies that individuals may not just exhibit these traits arbitrarily; instead, they can be the result of deliberate cultivation, similar to mastering a skill, which can shed light on the reasons behind their behavior today.
Themes
RudenessBehaviorPracticeDisagreeableRelationships
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about how negative behavior can become habitual.
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