Throughout evolutionary history, anxiety and fear have helped every species to be wary and to survive. Fear can signal us to act, or, alternatively, to resist the impulse to act. It can help us to make wise, self-protective choices in and out of relationships where we might otherwise sail mindlessly along, ignoring signs of trouble.
When you can't see yourself objectively, you won't see anyone else objectively, either. - Harriet Lerner
When you can't see yourself objectively, you won't see anyone else objectively, either.
- Harriet Lerner
We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same p… - Harriet Lerner
We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same p…
An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability,… - Harriet Lerner
An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability,…
Keep in mind that the tendency to be judgmental - toward yourself or another person - is a good barometer of how anxious or stressed out you are. Jud… - Harriet Lerner
Keep in mind that the tendency to be judgmental - toward yourself or another person - is a good barometer of how anxious or stressed out you are. Jud…
Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. - Harriet Lerner
Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.
Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person. - Harriet Lerner
Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.
If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first. - Harriet Lerner
If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first.
Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our co… - Harriet Lerner
Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our co…
If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard. - Harriet Lerner
If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.
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