In order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil and resistance.

- John M. Gottman

We move in response to our conversation partner’s face, and our brain also fires as we move those muscles and stirs the passions. Paralyzing the face…

- John M. Gottman

Thus, the critical dimension in understanding whether a marriage will work or not, becomes the extent to which the male can accept the influence of t…

- John M. Gottman

When a couple gets to the last stage, one or both partners may have an affair. But an affair is usually a symptom of a dying marriage, not the cause.…

- John M. Gottman

I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.

- John M. Gottman

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt.

- John M. Gottman

Marriages are much more likely to succeed when the couple experiences a 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interactions whereas when the ratio appr…

- John M. Gottman

Bid for connection: Each of our daily interactions with another person.

- John M. Gottman

In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like a soccer ball. They kick it arou…

- John M. Gottman