I pay very little regard...to what any young person says on the subject of marriage. If they profess a disinclination for it, I only set it down that they have not yet seen the right person.
Thus much indeed he was obliged to acknowledge - that he had been constant unconsciously, nay unintentionally; that he had meant to forget her, and believed it to be done. He had imagined himself indifferent, when he had only been angry; and he had been unjust to her merits, because he had been a sufferer from them.
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What this quote means
The quote reflects the complexity of emotions in relationships, highlighting the struggle between intention and subconscious feelings.
In this quote, Jane Austen explores the conflict between one's conscious intentions and their deeper, often unacknowledged emotions. The character realizes that despite his efforts to forget someone, he has been influenced by feelings of anger and injustice towards her, revealing how our unconscious feelings can impact our perceptions and actions in relationships. It speaks to the difficulty of truly understanding our emotions and how they can contradict our conscious desires.
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Example use cases
During a discussion on the complexities of love at a book club.
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