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Unconsciously, perhaps, we treasure the power we have over people by their regard for our opinion of them, and we hate those upon whom we have no such influence.
Interpretation
What this quote means
We often value our influence over others and may dislike those we cannot influence.
This quote by W. Somerset Maugham reflects a deeper psychological insight into human relationships, suggesting that our self-worth can be tied to the power we hold over others through their perception of us. It suggests that influence and admiration can create a false sense of importance, leading to a disdain for those who do not conform to our expectations or desires, as we find our own significance in the regard others have for our opinions.
Themes
InfluenceOpinionPowerRelationshipsRegard
In practice
Example use cases
During a team meeting, I might use this quote to discuss the importance of mutual respect in relationships.
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