Grieving allows us to heal, to remember with love rather than pain. It is a sorting process. One by one you let go of the things that are gone and you mourn for them. One by one you take hold of the things that have become a part of who you are and build again.
Interpretation
Grieving is a healing process that helps us remember loved ones positively while letting go of the past.
This quote by Rachel Naomi Remen emphasizes the importance of grieving as a vital part of healing from loss. It highlights that through grieving, we can shift our focus from pain to love, allowing ourselves to separate memories of what has been lost from our current identity. As we process our grief, we let go of what is no longer with us while simultaneously embracing the fragments that shape who we have become, ultimately rebuilding ourselves in a more profound way.
In practice
This quote can be used in a speech at a memorial service to emphasize the importance of grieving.
Helping, fixing, and serving represent three different ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak. when you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may be the work of the ego, and service the work of the soul.
In this culture the soul and the heart too often go homeless. Listening creates a holy silence. When you listen generously to people, they can hear the truth in themselves, often for the first time. And in the silence of listening, you can know yourself in everyone. Eventually you may be able to hear, in everyone and beyond everyone, the unseen singing softly to itself and to you.
At the deepest level, the creative process and the healing process arise from a single source. When you are an artist, you are a healer; a wordless trust of the same mystery is the foundation of your work and its integrity.
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Life is known only by those who have found a way to be comfortable with change and the unknown. Given the nature of life, there may be no security, but only adventure.
How strange to think that great pain may be impermanent. Something in us all seems to want to carve it in granite, as if only this would do full honor to its terrible significance. But even pain is blessed with impermanence... p 259
But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep, and miles to go before I sleep.
The world is like a dropped pie most of the time. Don't kill yourself trying to put it back together. Just grab a fork and eat some of it off the floor. Then carry on.
I have a full and satisfying life. My work and my family are very important to me.
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If Miss Honeychurch ever takes to live as she plays, it will be very exciting--both for us and for her.
The heart may freeze, or it can burn. The pain will ease and I can learn. There is no future, there is no past. I live this moment as, my last.
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