Enlightenment is not something you achieve. It is the absence of something. All your life you have been going forward after something, pursuing some goal. Enlightenment is dropping all that.
Joko BeckRead
What does open us is sharing our vulnerabilities. Sometimes we see a couple who has done this difficult work over a lifetime. In the process, they have grown old together. We can sense the enormous comfort, the shared quality of ease between these people. It is beautiful, and very rare. Without this quality of openness and vulnerability, partners don't really know each other; they are one image living with another image.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Sharing vulnerabilities strengthens relationships, leading to deeper connections between partners.
This quote emphasizes the importance of openness and vulnerability in intimate relationships. By sharing their true selves and the challenges they face, partners can develop a stronger bond and mutual understanding over time, contrasting with superficial connections where individuals maintain façades instead of authentic communication. The depth of their emotional connection grows, resulting in a rare beauty that is deeply comforting.
Themes
VulnerabilityRelationshipsOpennessConnectionAuthenticity
In practice
Example use cases
Use this quote in a relationship workshop to discuss the importance of emotional honesty.
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