If we can exit a relationship, pressure to reconcile lessens; if we must live with those who have wronged us, we are pushed to reconcile.
Miroslav VolfRead
Some of the worst violence in the world today between estranged religious and ethnic groups happens not on the battlefields. It happens smack in the middle of living rooms and between people who share a lot, who have a lot in common.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Conflict often arises not in public spaces but in our most personal interactions, highlighting the deep divisions that can exist even among those who are close.
This quote by Miroslav Volf emphasizes that some of the most intense and devastating conflicts occur not in traditional battlefields but in the intimate settings of our homes and personal relationships. It highlights how shared backgrounds and commonalities do not necessarily prevent violence and rifts from forming, pointing to the complex nature of human interactions and the potential for conflict even among those who seem similar.
Themes
ViolenceRelationshipsConflictCommonalityIntimacy
In practice
Example use cases
During a community seminar on conflict resolution, this quote can be shared to illustrate the importance of addressing issues within families.
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