He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
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It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one's germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
Interpretation
What this quote means
Children should not be brought into the world for selfish reasons or as a means to fulfill personal needs.
Irvin D. Yalom emphasizes the moral implications of parenthood, arguing that having children should not be driven by personal desires such as loneliness or the quest for immortality. Instead, it suggests that bringing a child into the world demands a deeper consideration of the child's future and autonomy, rather than using them as a means to fulfill one's own psychological needs or aspirations.
Themes
ParenthoodSelfishnessLonelinessResponsibilityConsciousness
In practice
Example use cases
During a discussion on family planning, I quoted Yalom to highlight the importance of thoughtful parenthood.
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