Time and trouble will tame an advanced young woman, but an advanced old woman is uncontrollable by any earthly force.
Dorothy L. SayersRead
You're thinking that people don't keep up old jealousies for twenty years or so. Perhaps not. Not just primitive, brute jealousy. That means a word and a blow. But the thing that rankles is hurt vanity. That sticks. Humiliation. And we've all got a sore spot we don't like to have touched.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Old grudges often stem from feelings of humiliation and hurt rather than mere jealousy.
In this quote, Dorothy L. Sayers explores the deeper emotional roots of interpersonal conflict, suggesting that while primitive jealousy may fade, the pain of hurt vanity and humiliation lingers far longer. She implies that every individual has vulnerabilities that, when touched, can reignite old wounds and lead to ongoing resentment, demonstrating the complexities of human relationships.
Themes
JealousyHumiliationRelationshipsHurtVanity
In practice
Example use cases
During a discussion about the impact of past grievances in friendships.
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