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In almost every marriage there is a selfish and an unselfish partner. A pattern is set up and soon becomes inflexible, of one person always making the demands and one person always giving way.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote highlights the dynamic of selfishness and selflessness in marriages.
Iris Murdoch's quote reveals a common pattern in many marriages where one partner tends to be more dominant or demanding while the other is more accommodating or self-sacrificing. This imbalance can create a rigid system in which roles become defined, potentially leading to resentment and diminishing satisfaction for both partners.
Themes
MarriageSelfishnessSelflessnessBalanceRelationshipsDynamics
In practice
Example use cases
During a marriage counseling session, a therapist could use this quote to illustrate relationship dynamics.
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