Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them.
M. Scott PeckRead
Although the act of nurturing another's spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one's own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Genuine love involves nurturing another's growth while maintaining individuality.
This quote highlights the essence of genuine love as a nurturing force that promotes not only the spiritual development of the other person but also reinforces the identity of both individuals. It emphasizes that in true love, while one supports and fosters another's growth, it's crucial to retain a clear distinction between oneself and the other, ensuring that love does not lead to the loss of one's individuality.
Themes
LoveNurturingSpiritual GrowthIndividualityGenuine
In practice
Example use cases
In a wedding ceremony, one might quote this to emphasize the importance of supporting one another's growth.
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