If a child is given love, he becomes loving ... If he's helped when he needs help, he becomes helpful. And if he has been truly valued at home ... he grows up secure enough to look beyond himself to the welfare of others.
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Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the crudest words.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Holding back anger can harm relationships just as much as saying hurtful things.
This quote by Joyce Brothers highlights the detrimental effects of repressed anger in personal relationships. When individuals do not express their feelings of anger, it can create underlying tension and resentment, ultimately poisoning the relationship over time, much like the effects of outright verbal attacks. The quote emphasizes the importance of open communication and addressing feelings instead of burying them, as unresolved emotions can be just as harmful as explicit hostility.
Themes
AngerRelationshipsCommunicationFeelingsEmotionsTrust
In practice
Example use cases
In a therapeutic session discussing relationship health.
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