It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.
The assumption is that life doesn't need to be navigated with lessons. You can just do it intuitively. After all, you only need to achieve autonomy from your parents, find a moderately satisfying job, form a relationship, perhaps raise some children, watch the onset of mortality in your parents' generation and eventually in your own, until one day a fatal illness starts gnawing at your innards and you calmly go to the grave, shut the coffin and are done with the self-evident business of life.
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What this quote means
Life can be lived intuitively without strict adherence to lessons; it's a journey ending in mortality.
In this quote, Alain De Botton explores the idea that life doesn't necessarily have to be approached with formal lessons or a rigid framework. Instead, he suggests that people can navigate life intuitively, fulfilling basic milestones such as achieving independence, finding work, building relationships, and coming to terms with mortality. This perspective emphasizes a natural, unstructured approach to living that focuses on essential life experiences rather than formal education or strict guidance.
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During a talk on personal development, you might say, 'As Alain De Botton suggests, we can often navigate life intuitively without strict lessons.'
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