In memoir, you have to be particularly careful not to alienate the reader by making the material seem too lived-in. It mustn't have too much of the smell of yourself, otherwise the reader will be unable to make it her own.
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I was aware, in those early days of motherhood, that my behaviour was strange to the people who knew me well. It was as though I had been brainwashed, taken over by a cult religion. And yet this cult, motherhood, was not a place where I could actually live. Like any cult, it demanded a complete surrender of identity to belong to it.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote explores the profound transformation and identity shift that occurs with motherhood.
In this quote, Rachel Cusk reflects on the striking changes in her identity and behavior that accompanied her experience of motherhood. She likens the intensity of motherhood to being part of a cult, emphasizing how it can demand total surrender of one's previous self in order to truly belong, which can create a sense of alienation from those who knew her before she became a mother.
Themes
MotherhoodIdentityTransformationSurrenderAlienation
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared in a parenting group discussion about identity changes after becoming a mother.
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