...not all encounters with the world affect the mind equally. Studies have demonstrated that if the brain appraises an event as "meaningful," it will be more likely to be recalled in the future.
Daniel J. SiegelRead
At the most basic level, therefore, secure attachments in both childhood and adulthood are established by two individual's sharing a nonverbal focus on the energy flow (emotional states) and a verbal focus on the information-processing aspects (representational processes of memory and narrative) of mental life. The matter of the mind matters for secure attachments.
Interpretation
Secure attachments require emotional and verbal connections between individuals.
This quote emphasizes the importance of both emotional and verbal communication in forming secure attachments in relationships, whether in childhood or adulthood. By highlighting the role of shared emotional states and narrative exchanges, it suggests that meaningful connections are built through attentive interaction and mutual understanding of each other’s experiences and feelings.
In practice
During a therapy session, a counselor might use this quote to illustrate the value of emotional connection in healing relationships.
...not all encounters with the world affect the mind equally. Studies have demonstrated that if the brain appraises an event as "meaningful," it will be more likely to be recalled in the future.
Early experience shapes the structure and function of the brain. This reveals the fundamental way in which gene expression is determined by experience.
Too often we forget that discipline really means to teach, not to punish. A disciple is a student, not a recipient of behavioural consequences.
While the days of parenting may seem so long, the years are so short.
We must keep in mind that only a part of memory can be translated into the language-based packets of information people use to tell their life stories to others. Learning to be open to many layers of communication is a fundamental part of getting to know another person's life.
For "full" emotional communication, one person needs to allow his state of mind to be influenced by that of the other.
Perhaps it is indeed time I began to look at this whole matter of bantering more enthusiastically. After all, when one thinks about it, it is not such a foolish thing to indulge in - particularly if it is the case that in bantering lies the key to human warmth.
Like all good things, prayer requires some discipline. Yet I believe that life with God should seem more like friendship than duty. Prayer includes moments of ecstasy and also dullness, mindless distraction and acute concentration, flashes of joy and bouts of irritation. In other words, prayer has features in common with all relationships that matter.
Our country has a painful history of mistrust between police departments and people of color. The overuse of stop-and-frisk has made those divisions much worse.
I was a pretty sensitive kid and quite neurotic, filled with a lot of anxiety, which all would have been very familiar to my pop, you know? Except it was a part of himself he was trying to reject, so I got caught in the middle of it, I think.
A man makes you feel important - makes you glad you are a woman.
I always try to remain aware that what affects others affects me, too.
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