Know what we did, Lucy? You and me? We spent our whole lives yearning. Isn't that the God damndest thing?
Richard YatesRead
He found it so easy and so pleasant to cry that he didn’t try to stop for a while, until he realized he was forcing his sobs a little, exaggerating their depth with unnecessary shudders. … The whole point of crying is to quit before you coined it up. The whole point of grief itself was to cut it out while it was still honest, while it still meant something. Because the thing was so easily corrupted
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of genuine emotions and experiencing grief authentically, rather than prolonging it unnecessarily.
In this quote, Richard Yates reflects on the nature of crying and grief, suggesting that indulging in sadness can lead one to exaggerate their feelings, thus losing the sincerity of the experience. He points out that the essence of grief lies in its authenticity, and that one should strive to embrace these emotions truthfully before they become marred by forced displays of sorrow.
Themes
GriefEmotionsSorrowAuthenticityCrying
In practice
Example use cases
In a heartfelt speech about mental health awareness, this quote could be used to highlight the importance of expressing emotions honestly.
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It's a disease. Nobody thinks or feels or cares any more; nobody gets excited or believes in anything except their own comfortable little God damn mediocrity.
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She just happened to feel like it. Wasn’t that after all, the only reason there was? Had she ever had a less selfish, more complicated reason for doing anything in her life?
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He knew it was possible for shame to be nursed and doctored like an illness, if you wanted to keep it separate from the rest of your life, but that didn't mean there'd be any way to keep from knowing it was there.
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