Know what we did, Lucy? You and me? We spent our whole lives yearning. Isn't that the God damndest thing?
Richard YatesRead
Do you know what the definition of insane is? Yes. It’s the inability to relate to another human being. It’s the inability to love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote illustrates that insanity stems from a lack of connection and love for others.
Richard Yates suggests that true insanity is not just a mental condition, but rather a profound disconnection from humanity and an inability to form loving relationships. This idea emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding in our interactions, arguing that to be unable to relate to others is a form of emotional and mental dysfunction.
Themes
InsanityRelationshipsLoveConnectionEmpathy
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about mental health, one might use this quote to emphasize the importance of human connection.
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He found it so easy and so pleasant to cry that he didn’t try to stop for a while, until he realized he was forcing his sobs a little, exaggerating their depth with unnecessary shudders. … The whole point of crying is to quit before you coined it up. The whole point of grief itself was to cut it out while it was still honest, while it still meant something. Because the thing was so easily corrupted
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He knew it was possible for shame to be nursed and doctored like an illness, if you wanted to keep it separate from the rest of your life, but that didn't mean there'd be any way to keep from knowing it was there.
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