Know what we did, Lucy? You and me? We spent our whole lives yearning. Isn't that the God damndest thing?
Richard YatesRead
He couldn't even tell whether he was angry or contrite, whether it was forgiveness he wanted or the power to forgive.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote captures the complexity of emotions when seeking forgiveness or grappling with anger and regret.
In this quote, Richard Yates explores the internal conflict of a person who is unable to discern their true feelings amidst a situation involving forgiveness. It highlights the ambiguity of emotions where one might feel both anger and remorse, creating a struggle to determine whether they seek forgiveness for themselves or the strength to forgive another. This duality illustrates the intricate nature of human relationships and the emotional turmoil that can accompany them.
Themes
ForgivenessAngerContritionRelationshipsEmotions
In practice
Example use cases
During a restorative justice meeting, this quote could be used to express the mixed feelings of a victim.
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He found it so easy and so pleasant to cry that he didn’t try to stop for a while, until he realized he was forcing his sobs a little, exaggerating their depth with unnecessary shudders. … The whole point of crying is to quit before you coined it up. The whole point of grief itself was to cut it out while it was still honest, while it still meant something. Because the thing was so easily corrupted
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She just happened to feel like it. Wasn’t that after all, the only reason there was? Had she ever had a less selfish, more complicated reason for doing anything in her life?
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