We start making every child ambitious, and ambition means you cannot love; ambition is anti-love. Ambition needs fight, ambition needs struggle, ambition needs you to use others as a means.
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In every bed you will find four persons sleeping together. It is very rare to find a double bed, because then four persons are there overcrowding it. The wife is there and the ego, and the husband is there and the ego - husband is hidden behind his ego, wife is hidden behind her ego, and those two egos go on making love. The real contact never happens.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote illustrates how egos can obstruct genuine connection between partners in a relationship.
Rajneesh points out that in a relationship, both partners often bring their egos into the intimacy of their connection. Instead of truly connecting with each other, they end up interacting with each otherβs egos, which prevents them from experiencing a deeper, more authentic relationship. This results in a superficial connection that lacks true intimacy and understanding.
Themes
EgoRelationshipsIntimacyConnectionLove
In practice
Example use cases
This quote could be shared during a relationship counseling session to highlight the impact of ego on intimacy.
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