Every great loss demands that we choose life again. We need to grieve in order to do this. The pain we have not grieved over will always stand between us and life. When we don't grieve, a part of us becomes caught in the past like Lot's wife who, because she looked back, was turned into a pillar of salt.
Interpretation
Grieving is essential to moving forward in life after experiencing loss.
This quote emphasizes the importance of grieving in the process of healing from loss. When we experience significant pain and do not allow ourselves to grieve, we become trapped in the past, preventing us from fully engaging with life. The reference to Lot's wife serves as a metaphor for the dangers of looking back and holding onto past regrets or sorrows, suggesting that to truly live, we must process our grief and choose to embrace life again.
In practice
This quote would be fitting in a eulogy to emphasize the need for grieving.
Helping, fixing, and serving represent three different ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak. when you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may be the work of the ego, and service the work of the soul.
In this culture the soul and the heart too often go homeless. Listening creates a holy silence. When you listen generously to people, they can hear the truth in themselves, often for the first time. And in the silence of listening, you can know yourself in everyone. Eventually you may be able to hear, in everyone and beyond everyone, the unseen singing softly to itself and to you.
At the deepest level, the creative process and the healing process arise from a single source. When you are an artist, you are a healer; a wordless trust of the same mystery is the foundation of your work and its integrity.
The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.
Grieving allows us to heal, to remember with love rather than pain. It is a sorting process. One by one you let go of the things that are gone and you mourn for them. One by one you take hold of the things that have become a part of who you are and build again.
Life is known only by those who have found a way to be comfortable with change and the unknown. Given the nature of life, there may be no security, but only adventure.
The part of life which we really live is short.
I can no more think of my own life without thinking of wine and wines and where they grew for me and why I drank them when I did and why I picked the grapes and where I opened the oldest procurable bottles, and all that, than I can remember living before I breathed.
Sometimes the way to do what you hope to do will be clear cut, and sometimes it will be almost impossible to decide whether or not you are doing the correct thing, because you'll have to balance your goals and hopes with feeding yourself, paying debts, finding work, settling for what you can get.
You can have meaning, accomplishment, engagement and good relationships, even if you are dull on the positive affect side.
So, this is my life. And I want you to know that I am both happy and sad and I'm still trying to figure out how that could be.
I don't have a career, I have a life. I don't have an exterior judgment on what would be good or bad for me.
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