Advice is unfriendly to learning, especially when it is sought. Most of the time when people seek advice, they just want to be heard. Advice at best stops the conversation, definitely inhibits learning, and at worst claims dominance.
Peter BlockRead
Good questions work on us, we don't work on them. They are not a project to be completed but a doorway opening onto greater depth of understanding, actions that will take us into being more fully alive.
Interpretation
Good questions lead us to deeper understanding and engagement in life.
This quote emphasizes the transformative power of asking profound questions. Rather than viewing questions as mere academic exercises, they should be seen as gateways that encourage deeper thought and a fuller experience of life, prompting us to explore our existence more meaningfully.
In practice
In a workshop, you might say this quote to encourage participants to embrace curiosity.
Advice is unfriendly to learning, especially when it is sought. Most of the time when people seek advice, they just want to be heard. Advice at best stops the conversation, definitely inhibits learning, and at worst claims dominance.
Invitation is not only a step in bringing people together, it is also a fundamental way of being in a community. It manifests the willingness to live in a collaborative way. This means that a future can be created without having to force or sell it or barter for it. When we believe that barter or subtle coercion is necessary, we are operating out of a context of scarcity and self-interest, the core currencies of the economist.
Relationship and connectedness are the pre-condition for change. Every meeting, every process, every training program has to get people connected first. Otherwise the content falls on deaf ears. So small groups are an essential building block to any future you want to create.
The goal is to balance a life that works with a life that counts.
How do you change the world? One room at a time. Which room? The one you're in.
We need to tell people not to be helpful. Trying to be helpful and giving advise are really ways to control others. ... Advice, recommendations, and obvious actions are exactly what increase the likelihood that tomorrow will be just like yesterday.
I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can't find anybody who can tell me what they want.
But it is hard to know them from friends, they are so obsequious and full of protestations; for a wolf resembles a dog, so doth a flatterer a friend.
At the moment of vision, the eyes see nothing.
No wonder, he thought, that the panhandle people were a godly lot, for they lived in sudden, violent atmospheres. Weather kept them humble.
Treat every piece of advice as a gift or a compliment and simply say, “Thank you.
What is it that stands higher than words? Action. What is it that stands higher than action? Silence.
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