Advice is unfriendly to learning, especially when it is sought. Most of the time when people seek advice, they just want to be heard. Advice at best stops the conversation, definitely inhibits learning, and at worst claims dominance.
Peter BlockRead
Invitation is not only a step in bringing people together, it is also a fundamental way of being in a community. It manifests the willingness to live in a collaborative way. This means that a future can be created without having to force or sell it or barter for it. When we believe that barter or subtle coercion is necessary, we are operating out of a context of scarcity and self-interest, the core currencies of the economist.
Interpretation
Invitation fosters community and collaboration, enabling a future built on shared willingness rather than scarcity or coercion.
This quote emphasizes the importance of invitation as a means of building relationships within a community. It suggests that true collaboration arises from a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity, and highlights that when individuals operate from a place of self-interest, they may resort to manipulative tactics instead of the genuine connections formed through invitation and collaboration.
In practice
In a community meeting to discuss local initiatives, I would use this quote to highlight the importance of collective efforts.
Advice is unfriendly to learning, especially when it is sought. Most of the time when people seek advice, they just want to be heard. Advice at best stops the conversation, definitely inhibits learning, and at worst claims dominance.
Relationship and connectedness are the pre-condition for change. Every meeting, every process, every training program has to get people connected first. Otherwise the content falls on deaf ears. So small groups are an essential building block to any future you want to create.
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